Here I cannot extend my shape vertically because I miss the middle selection point:
However if I zoom one step further it appears:
How to make it appear always or sooner in the zoom level?
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You can't, there's no option to change that. This is how Illustrator works, and it's the type of feature you should suggest to Adobe themselves.
According to their blog, there are four ways that you can provide feedback directly to Adobe: