A point (pt) is a physical size and it depends on the document resolution. I imagine between two your documents it's not the same.
Select your first document, go to Image > Image Size to get its Resolution, then switch to the second one (the one you want to change) and in the same window change the Resolution value to the same as your first doc.
Metallic writing is easiest in Photoshop because it has layer style Bevel&Emboss which your examples seem to use. It alone gives numerous variations. You'll find easily numerous gold making receipes which use that effect. In addition they insert color variations for greater plausibility - gold gradients or even a photo of gold to be used instead of a ...
There is no need to set a different style on the last bullet point.
Just set up "bullets" style with Space after set to 4mm and Space between set to 1mm, and apply this one style to all bullets.
I know of no good way to find the para before a bullet list, but you can use a trick to apply 2 styles at once.
First the set up:
You already ...